An Anatomy of Intimacy

There's a scene in the 2012 movie Francis Ha where Francis, the loveable epitome of a quarter-life crisis, delivers a monologue while sitting with a group of friends, a part of them, apart from them. “It's that thing when you're with someone, and you love them and they know it, and they love you and … Continue reading An Anatomy of Intimacy

Reminder to self: stay away from narcissists

An unfortunately high fraction of my personal relationships – platonic, romantic, collaborative, familial – have involved narcissists. I am the common denominator there, so most of the problem lies within me: I seek validation from a sense of being useful and being needed, at the cost of my own fulfillment, at the cost of my … Continue reading Reminder to self: stay away from narcissists